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Mental health, therapy wins, therapy fails, and the ongoing work of not falling apart. Because being put together and being healthy aren't the same thing.



The Shed, the Microwave, and My Nervous System.
Builder Mommy is the name. This week I built a shed and installed an air fryer microwave. That sentence sounds like the opening line of a very boring Home Depot commercial, but somehow both of those things cracked me open emotionally in a way that no guided meditation, breathwork exercise, or inspirational Instagram reel ever has. That feels extremely on‑brand for my life. The Context No One Asks For but Everyone Needs I am a single mother to a toddler, living in Portland, tr

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Does Meditation Fucking Work?
I was sixteen when a doctor handed me Xanax to quiet a brain that wouldn't stop screaming. Years later, Vipassana meditation gave me back something medication never could: presence. Here's what actually happened when I traded the pill for the cushion, the science, the struggle, and whether it really works

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When the Boundary Is Your Mother
A personal essay on a decade of losses, from domestic violence to addiction to illness, and the hardest boundary yet: choosing peace over a relationship with her own mother. A reflection on the difference between compassion and self-abandonment, and what it means to parent your own parent while little eyes are watching.

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The Art of Listening
A night inside Mono Space, Portland's high-fidelity listening gallery, for a full album playback of Frank Ocean's Channel Orange. A reflection on sound, memory, and a birthday spent revisiting the album that once carried her through a self-discovery trip across Spain.

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New Orleans Doesn't Miss You, and That's Exactly Where the Magic Lives
A return to the French Quarter after years away, from the smell of Bourbon Street to the courtyards, ghost stories, and hurricanes the city has absorbed without ever softening for anyone. A reflection on the magic of a place that doesn't wait for you, and what it reveals about how much you've changed.

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